A Guide to Going Out for Introverts

Going out can feel intimidating, especially when the idea of staying home in a comfy onesie and watching Netflix sounds so appealing. But trying new experiences and stepping outside your comfort zone can lead to meeting new people, discovering fun spots, or simply having an excuse to wear that cute outfit. Whether you’re hanging out with friends or flying solo, here are some tips to help you as an introvert.

Pick events that suit you
Start by finding events that feel right for you. Check out local venues for parties or gatherings that catch your interest. Not into clubbing? Consider trivia nights, board game cafes, or groups based on your hobbies like hiking, crafting, or even niche interests. You can discover events on sites like Eventbrite or Meetup, or search social media for groups that align with your passions—music, sports, fashion, and more. If you prefer not to travel far, check out what’s going on nearby at local spots.

Do your research
Doing a bit of prep can make you feel more confident heading out. Here are some things to consider:

• Vibe: Look at reviews or social media pages for the venue. Does the atmosphere match what you’re looking for?
• Accessibility: Check if the place has seating, ramps, restrooms, or quiet areas in case you need a break.
• Weather: Consider whether the event is indoors or outdoors and what the weather will be like. Bring a jacket if you might get chilly.
• Food: Find out if food will be provided or available for purchase. If you have dietary restrictions, make sure your needs are met.
• Location: Research the area around the venue. Does it feel safe to walk to your car or wait for a ride? Share your location with someone if you’re heading to an unfamiliar area alone.

Don’t forget the essentials
It’s easy to forget something when you’re rushing out. Make a checklist of what you need. Of course, you’ll want your ID, wallet, keys, and phone. But you might also need cash, an umbrella, tissues, or a water bottle. If you take birth control or other medications, remember to bring them along and set a reminder to take them while you’re out. And don’t forget condoms for STI protection if that applies to you.

Do what makes you comfortable
Arriving a little early gives you time to get used to the space before it gets crowded. Use this time to find the restrooms and water stations. Don’t hesitate to bring items that help you feel comfortable, like earplugs if the music is too loud. Listen to your body and give it what it needs—whether that’s sitting down to rest, using a fan if it’s too hot, or stepping into a quieter area if you feel overwhelmed. And remember, it’s okay to leave if you’re not enjoying yourself. If it’s not working for you, don’t hesitate to head home. Your well-being comes first.

Be yourself
There’s often pressure to be more outgoing, but the best thing you can do is just be yourself. You don’t need to be the center of attention! It’s completely fine to hang back and take things at your own pace. Trust me, you’re not the only one who feels a little nervous or out of place. Just relax and enjoy the vibe. There’s something pretty cool about people coming together for a good time.

And remember to plan some downtime afterward to recharge.

You’ve got this!