How to Survive a Breakup During the Holidays

“The most wonderful time of the year” can feel a little less so when you’re going through a breakup during the holidays. Breakups are tough no matter when they happen, but the festive season, with all its holiday cheer, can make it feel even harder. Not only are you dealing with private heartbreak, but you also have to explain to everyone why you’re flying solo at parties.

No matter how your breakup happened, you can still get through the holidays. Here are a few tips to help you survive the season without drowning in tears (or eggnog).

Resist checking your ex’s social media
It’s tempting to stalk your ex’s profiles, especially when you’re wondering if they’ve already moved on. But trust us, it’s better to focus on your own future instead of obsessing over their posts. It might sting less to look forward than to keep checking if they’ve found someone new.

Don’t rush into dating again
Society loves to push the idea that being single is a bad thing, but it’s perfectly okay to take some time for yourself after a breakup. Grieving the loss of a relationship is totally normal, and there’s no need to jump into dating again right away (or at all if you’re not ready). If friends or family pressure you, set boundaries—take care of yourself first.

Watch revenge movies instead of rom-coms
If the typical holiday romance movies are just too much right now, try a revenge flick instead. Watching characters get their justice can be oddly satisfying. You could even settle the long-standing debate about whether Die Hard is a Christmas movie. Explosions and action might be the perfect distraction from all that holiday fluff.

Treat yourself to gifts
A breakup during the holidays means returning the gifts you bought for your ex—and buying yourself something nice instead. Who says you can’t have twice the presents this year?

Create new traditions…or stick with the old ones
The holidays can be tough when they remind you of traditions you shared with your ex. One option is to make new traditions that are all about you. Always wanted to try ice skating or a new winter activity your ex didn’t enjoy? Now’s your chance!

If the thought of changing everything feels overwhelming, you could keep the traditions that still bring you comfort and joy. Do what feels right for you—this holiday is about your happiness.

Skip the holiday fuss if you need to
If you’re not feeling up to the holiday cheer, it’s okay to take a step back. Not everyone is in the mood to celebrate, and there’s no rule that says you have to. Skip the decorations, skip the parties—take a break and focus on what you need to heal.

Just take it one day at a time. The holidays won’t last forever, and remember, you’re your best gift this season.