Why You Should Consider Scheduling Sex (If You’re Not Already)

Ignore the critics who say that sex only works when it’s spontaneous or that scheduling it is somehow unsexy. While the act of scheduling might not sound thrilling, the sex itself definitely is—after all, that’s the goal! If life feels busy, or if you often end up too tired to do anything but crash on the couch, scheduling sex can help you enjoy a more fulfilling sex life. Here are a few other reasons to consider making it part of your routine:

1. You can plan your meals
   If you’re someone who loves garlic, cheese, or beans, scheduling sex gives you the chance to think ahead. We’re not saying you should avoid your favorite foods, but if you want to avoid bad breath or potential tummy troubles, planning what you eat beforehand can make a difference.
2. You can charge your toys
   This might be the best reason to schedule sex: making sure your favorite toys are ready to go. After all, is sex as good without your favorite wireless toy? Sure, it can still be great, but having everything ready can definitely enhance the experience.
3. You can get in the mood
   When you know sex is coming up, you can set the stage to get in the mood. Whether it’s playing music, enjoying a foot rub, or doing something else that turns you on, you’ll have time to set the tone before things heat up.
4. You can both shower
   Spontaneous sex can be exciting for many reasons, but sometimes it’s nice not to feel like you just came from a workout. Scheduling sex gives you the chance to freshen up and feel your best.
5. You can remove distractions
   Life is full of distractions—kids, phones, a messy house, a curious cat—the list goes on. Scheduling sex allows you to take care of these distractions in advance, giving you the chance to fully focus on each other when the time comes.
6. You can build up to it
   When you know exactly when sex is happening, you can build anticipation. Send flirty texts, leave little notes, or tease each other leading up to the scheduled time. It adds excitement and makes the moment even hotter.
7. You can give it the time it deserves
   Quickies are fun and have their place, but sometimes you just want to take your time and enjoy each other fully. Scheduling sex gives you the freedom to block off as much time as you need (or at least as much time as your cat will allow).

Scheduling sex may not seem glamorous at first, but it can actually bring you closer to the sex life you want—giving you more time to connect, enjoy each other, and make the experience even better.